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By a Unanimous Decision The Verdict is, Bullies Don’t Make Great Leaders


Childhood memories are great aren’t they? We can visualize all the good, bad and ugly that took place there. For me, I look back on that thing now with no regret where at one time I wished that I could just take the pain away. There is a world of hurt out here, and where ever we are in life and whatever we do we need to consider right now that bullies just don’t make great leaders. Never have never will.


I can still remember the second grade, I was bad always into something as soon as I hit that school ground. I know some of you here remember S. S. Dillow and Mrs. Jenkins (Smile). I don’t know, something in me even then a leading edge and I wasn’t a child that was going to be in a clique that I had to follow I guess it was just that way for me. It all started when we would go out to recess and the teacher would call on me to lead the line, and for some reason it became that way everyday. I would make sure that line was straight, that they didn’t talk and that all was right. I wasn’t a bad leader; there is a difference in a bully and a leader.


A leader gives of himself to make sure everyone wins, a bully takes until no one wants to gives.


Apparently, there are always those who want to overthrow a good leader. They have their reasons, and even as children we can see that they have their cliques; and so it was on this occasion. Some people are just called out to be picked on, so that we see that it doesn’t have to be anything happening or there can be plenty happening. No matter there is someone who is going to be picked, except, when someone wants to overthrow someone they don’t come alone. They come with others to confront, to threaten and to put fear in someone. In this case there were two girls who were classmates and who until that day had stood in the line and were doing good like everyone else; however, this time they would not do as they were told. If I stood in front of them to give an instruction then they just stood there. I had not had a fight then so frankly, this was something new. No one had ever been rebellious before and while I was talking to one girl another came up to me and they both said pretty plainly that they were not doing what I said anymore and that they were the leaders. I looked at the teacher and she was talking but had looked back at us; however, she didn’t say anything.(they had that spot until we were promoted to another grade). My feelings for her changed too, and I have to tell you I became a loner after that.


I felt humiliated, embarrassed, and although I don’t remember anyone laughing or teasing I felt no one really liked me after that. They liked those girls and they became popular, while I became nobody. It was pretty bad after that because that’s when the fights started because no one likes to be pushed and shoved everyday. it makes it hard to learn for children, sometimes I don’t know how I made it through that. I never started any fights, except one and on the advice of my daddy during a spanking I never started one again. His words to me were “Don’t start any fights, but if they hit you beat their____(I’ll let you finish). Well, that was the beginning of a whole lot of fights, seems like everyone wanted to fight. The neighbors, people I thought were my friends, people at other schools, even had a teacher to man handle me. I wonder if he had a daughter, because that seed must be a weed by now.


Even though bullies don’t make great leaders, we must remember that little bullies grow up. I’m sure those girls that liked to fight me, some are good women now; however, what about the others and what about guys who were bullies who try to lead the women today?  Are they bullies still?


Let’s talk about this, lets reason who can be a bully. Who would fit that description?


Types of bullies:


  • Kidnappers (Slave Masters)
  • Children and grand children of Slave Masters (Individuals, groups)
  • Men who fight women
  • Women who fight
  • Gangs (including street, KKK, Hate Groups)
  • Government (Individuals, and entities, Military)
  • Religious Leaders (individual, Christian, Cults)
  • Parents (Individual)
  • Step Parents (Cinderella, Men and Women)
  • Abused Children

The list is never ending…it can go on. Definitely a good point in deciding whether bullies are fit to lead, because it is disturbing how someone might have it in their minds how people can just get over it…no we see bullying happening over and over again…starts when we are children and on into adulthood.The end result bullies just don’t make good leaders and if we think otherwise, think again’


The verdict is in. Praying for all ears to hear.


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A Call to Shake the Nation and the Family

Matthew 10: 33-39
“But whoever denies Me before men, I will also deny him before My Father who is in heaven.
Do not think that I came to bring peace (or even prosperity) on earth; I did not come to bring peace (or even prosperity), but a sword (war with My word of Truth).”
“ For I came to set a Man against his Father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter in law against her mother in law; and a man’s enemies will be members of his own household.”
“He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me; and he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. “And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. “He who has found his life will lose it, and he who has lost his life for My sake will find it.” (Emphasis mine)
Our walk for God isn’t an easy one. Sometimes we have to go places that are not comfortable and that surely make no sense at all. I have read these verses many times and thought that this was a prophecy seeing that Moms and daughters, fathers and sons (alike) sometimes don’t get along well this had come to light. Remembering my own volatile relationship with my mother is probably the reason I thought this way; but this is not what God is saying here at all.
We have some rough stuff dealing with our families don’t we? I have been prepping my 12 year old to love a righteous life, been taking (sometimes dragging) her to church; urging her to read the word. At school encouraging her to stay focused, helping her to prepare her mind for higher learning, talking to her about the best high schools here, and the college she will attend(she has some say in all these), because she has a voice; always encouraging her to make sound decisions for herself. Amen.
So it was surprising when she came home the other day and said, “Mama, I don’t want to go to college when I finish high school!”
This was a surprise because ever since elementary school she had made it known to all who would listen was that she wanted to be a Heart Surgeon, Amen. She has the mind to help people and I can see her in that field. Well, she came home that day and exclaimed to me that she no longer wanted this, because she didn’t like math or school and that she wanted to be a movie star. Unfortunately, I didn’t take this too well, and told her after she had completed college and medical school she could do what she wanted with her life; that she could go to New York and learn to be an actor or whatever it is they do, but that she would have a stable livelihood until this happened for her; she agreed. But the reason she agreed was that I explained how hard it is for actors to break into that business, some of them take jobs like everyone else to survive; and still some never get in. We know that Persistence is key when dealing with our children.
But what about the child that came home one day and told his parents that he/she is gay or lesbian what is there to do in a situation like this? Of course if we are Christians and actually living for God, we know that this type of behavior is not of God…Amen. Many of us are facing this now, and still others have family members who live this life style. Even now some families have been torn apart because the child has felt abandoned and unaccepted because of their choice. What are the parents to do? We love our kids don’t we? This is a hard pill to swallow for any parent, and as a result their children have left their families and cut off all ties. But what does the word say about any sin…
What about our children having sex unmarried? The question now becomes do we trust God and deliver the word without thought that we maybe rejected by our children? What about those of us who allow our children’s or any family member to influence us into giving in to them? I don’t drink so do I allow drinking and drunkenness in my home because they are my children, No! This makes me guilty as if I had done it! If God says it’s wrong to be drunk with wine then why would I allow it in my home? am I going along with them in their drunkenness and other deviant behavior to keep peace? Then I may as well get a glass and share in their folly, because I have denied God’s word in this and allowed it to happen. Wow!
This is not an easy word to see or grasp, because some say that, “whatever they do they will do with or without me!” and they say, “I would rather let them do it here then elsewhere!” Sure we want them to be safe…but what does the word say?
It says, “come from among them!”(and their behavior) It does not say, except when it’s my family. Wow! Sin is sin no matter who does it. We are called to speak the word no matter who it is, but this is where the problems come. Because some of us haven’t been on good behavior in front of our kids and have done some stuff. So in all likelihood we don’t say anything because we don’t want to hear those inevitable words, “You did it!”
But God says, to “be bold and courageous,” So this is where the rubber meets the road.
Bear arms and speak the word….it will save them! Boy, this is a good word for all of us…hope it helps!

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